The Reality of a Change in Tense

The Dizzying Reality is Starting to Set In

The dizzying reality of this process is now beginning to sink in, as this week I had the task of  notifying colleagues of my intentions.  This was difficult because I consider them friends and not just work colleagues.  I also feel a sense of loyalty to them that my actions are about to betray. 

I elected to speak to them individually rather than as a group because I had slightly different things that I wanted to say to each of them.  I was perhaps a little surprised to find that the reactions I received ranged from disappointment and sadness to bewilderment and shock.

The range of reactions is driven by the fact that I work within a family business and have done so for around twenty years. Consequently,   I’m sure people expected me to be there until the end; a lifer as they say.  The truth is I expected to be that person myself and on the face of it I look happy in my work.   However, I have long denied a sense that something was not quite right and as I said in my earlier posts, acknowledging this has been the key to making a change.  

Having let people know, it’s a strange feeling to think that I am part of the companies past and present but I am no longer part of the future.  That shift in tense represents a huge step into my new reality.  

J. 

Breaking the Age Barrier


Its been a tough week.   Self doubt has enveloped me on several occasions, leaving me convinced that I cannot be successful in my career change ambitions.  I have found myself thinking – “I wish I was 25 again”, “how can I have the audacity to think that I can compete with people younger than me?”. 

As these thoughts rattle, destructively through my brain, I am immediately convinced of the need to abort my plans.  That voice in my head is so pursuasive, so utterly convincing that I cannot mount the counter argument.  I am subservient to the superiority of its thesis.  

Then I pause,  walk away from myself, because I know my feelings will change.  

Thankfully, it doesn’t take too long.  And the catalyst?  This weekends Wimbledon singles finals.  A 37 year old in Venus Williams and a 35 year old Roger Federer.  In the context of professional sport they are well into their twilight, yet there they are at the peak of their sport.  What could be greater inspiration than that?  

I’m back on track.


J.